Loneliness and clique`s

A normative clique or reference group is often the primary source of social interaction for the members of the clique, which can affect the values and beliefs of an individual. The comparative clique or reference group is a standard of comparison in which a clique can exist in the workplace, in a community, in the classroom, in a business, or any other area of social interaction. Cliques tend to form within the boundaries of a larger group where opportunities to interact are great.^[2] Cliques are often associated with children and teenagers in a classroom setting. Schools are a prime place where peer network exist and can easily be accentuated through the differentiation of various cliques, and through the processes of inclusion and exclusion that characterize a clique.^[3]

Loneliness is a feeling where people experience a powerful surge of emptiness and solitude. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Someone lonely may find it hard to form human contact.

mmmmmm…pretty similiar really. I’m wondering if they are the same words.

I have one problem with Wikipedias definition of cliques:

“Cliques are often associated with children and teenagers in a classroom setting.”

I submit that it occurs even at a more alarming rate OUTSIDE of the classroom , covering a large area of ages. Perhaps even more so in the 40 plus age brackett.

Not sure if I’m right? Pretty sure I am but test it yourself. Go to a league nite at your club, happy hour at the local pub, attendance in a chatroom. See it yet?

See the guy that just walked in ,. You with a few of your friends. How many of those people got up and bothered themselves by extending their hand? How many people said Good day to the newbie in the chatroom? What about that guy sitting at the bar alone? You buy him a drink?

I have seen this a million times and pretty sure I will see it more.

I’ve been in chat for approximately 8-10 years and I have yet to find a room WITHOUT a clique.

Initially I attempted to get in the clique, wanting to belong. Hell I even went to a few chat parties-and that was after building a relationship with many of the members. I have come to the conclusion unless your so and so’s cousin or something or live in pretty good proximety, it takes a herculean effort to scratch that itch.

Why? Thats a very obscure question. There are many reasons, so many a reasons 3-4 page blog might not touch the surface. Wrong hair color, wrong teeth color(lol), holes in the Jeans, ripped T-shirt or my personal favorite HE WALKS WITH A CANE!!! Meaning what? Not normal? Is retarded? Slow?

Tell me…I really want to know? Why? Is their a real reason? Ignore that pre-adolescent bullshit and come clean! Do you really know what your missing? Ask yourself who really is the one hurtin’?

Thier is not a person IN THE WORLD who doesn’t have an ‘obstacle’ they have to overcome on a daily basis, some more visible than others.

Maybe your think your ass is to big. Maybe you cramp up in cold weather. Maybe that new denture creme isn’t holding. Maybe your gassy, who knows and who cares? Are you afraid that someone elses obstacle may rub off on you? Is your self-esteem really that low?

…and then comes the cane.That is the first and only thing people see when I enter the room. People see nothing else and don’t want to see nothing else(kinda like that SGT. SHULTZ guy on Hogan’s Hero’s) I could walk in there with the largest smile,Armani suits, Gucci shoes,ripped to shreds from the gym and the only thing ANYONE sees is the cane. At that point its a done deal.

What makes people so scared, so insecure. I have no idea. I have come very close to giving up, but thats not in my charactor.

I will be there.I will be in your face. Let ‘em in.